Let’s get honest for a second. Porn addiction isn’t really about sex. It’s about connection… about loneliness, shame, and the ache to feel close to something when life feels empty or overwhelming.

My guest for this episode, Sathiya Sam, knows that pain deeply. After a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, he rebuilt his life and now helps others do the same through his Deep Clean program - a compassionate, science-meets-spirituality approach that helps people stop using porn and start building real connection again.

We’re talking about what really drives addiction, the role of purpose and community in recovery, how to protect kids in this new digital world, and what AI “relationships” mean for the future of intimacy. It’s a deep, human conversation about healing, hope, and the real work of reclaiming yourself.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Porn Addiction Is About Connection, Not Willpower

01:17 Sathiya Sam’s Recovery Story and Deep Clean Method

07:21 Purpose, Boredom, and the Root Causes of Porn Use

13:44 Protecting Kids From Early Exposure

18:24 AI, Loneliness, and Synthetic Intimacy

30:11 Healing Through Community and Real Connection

34:32 Why Your Partner Shouldn’t Be Your Accountability Partner

39:34 First Steps to Quit Porn for Good

If you’re tired of feeling stuck or alone, and you’re ready to start healing - I want to help. You can schedule a free consultation with me or someone on my team at Growing Self. It’s a private, judgment-free space where you can talk honestly about what’s been going on, whether that’s rebuilding trust, finding your purpose, or learning how to quit porn and reconnect with yourself and the people you love.

You don’t have to carry this by yourself. Real change is possible… and it starts with connection.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self

P.S. I’d also love to hear what resonated for you or what ideas you’d like me to explore next. Let’s keep the conversation going!